| I recently started seeing an absolute raving loonie. It all started well. she was a girl from work that i kinda just started sleeping with and it was cool, neither of us cared, no strings attached, perfect. then will started seeing her best friend and fucked it all up. once will and alex started getting couply things with alison started getting weird, all couply and shit. but will really wanted me to give it a shot so i'm like why not? it might turn out i like her... anyway, last wednesday we all went to the movies which i was very apprehensive about but it went well and i enjoyed myself. anyway, we were all meant to go out on friday night after i finished work but i didn't hear anything all day from either alex and alison except for a message saying that she was looking forward to seeing me. i had to knock off at 11 cos i forgot my insulin and got sick and had to go home and get it. i hadn't heard anything from the girls so i was like fuck it, messaged them and said 'what happened, i'm going to bed'. i get this phone call at 1 in the morning from alex saying 'we're at 11a can you call the bouncer and get us in for free and drinkcards?' and i'm like what the fuck? no... so alex asks me if i can come in and get them in... really, what the fuck. i said no, i'm in bed, if you crazy women had let me know earlier i could have organised something, i'm going to bed. then alex goes 'alison really wants to see you' all of a sudden i'm thinking with my pants so i foolishly go in. before i do i explicitly state that we can't go to 11a (where i work) cos i knocked off sick. i get into the city, ring some people, find out that everyone is at 11a. i go in, get in shit with my boss, and completely ignored by everyone... what the fuck? it takes me 45 mins to get everyone to leave and go to lounge and when we finally do everytime i tried to walk with anyone they ignored me. when i tried to walk with alison she ran away from me to go and be all over this guy i work with. so i'm thinking 'she doesn't want to see me, alex just wanted me to get her in for free and free drinks and shit'. we get to lounge and i keep getting ignored so i say my goodbyes and all of a sudden alison is like 'why are you leaving i really wanted to see you?' by this stage i am completely bemused, wanted to see me? funny way of showing it... so i give her a chance and stay for a bit and nothing changes, still being ignored by everyone. in the end i leave and the next day started getting messages saying shit like 'sorry about last night, i was fucked up on drugs, we should have a chat blah blah blah. basically my reply to this is 'really, do whatever you want. i'm not gonna get played like that.' to which i get 'in that case i think we should chat after work, come into spy when you knock off.'. to this i think fuck! does she not get the picture? i didn't sign up for this emotional girlfriend bullshit but i thought i'd be a nice guy so i agreed to come. i knocked off at 3:20, was in spy at 3:30 and she is nowhere to be found. i check my phone and i got a message from her at 3:20 saying she had knocked off. i went for a look for her and couldn't find her. then at 3:35 i got another message saying she was tired and was gonna leave soon... what the fuck gonna leave soon? she already left!!!!! does she think i'm stupid? so to this i said 'look, i have my own shit to deal with and i don't need anymore craziness in my life, see you when i see you' and haven't heard anything since then.
so now its time to re-iterate the policies and walls i created after being fucked up by 2 certain females early last year...
rule 1: NO TOLERANCE!
if they fuck up, give them the arse guys cos they'll do it again, guaranteed. this rule has saved me much heartache and it always makes sure that you are doing the dumping which, harsh or not, always feels better!
rule 2: MINIMAL EFFORT!
let them do some fucking work, you don't have to always call them, let them do some shit for you. don't EVER put yourself for a girl cos there is a much better than even chance that they either won't even notice or, like happened to me, get shat on for it
rule 3: NO MATTER HOW HOT THEY ARE THERE IS A GUY WHO IS SICK OF SHAGGING HER!
pretty self explanotory really...
see with alison i broke rule 2 and got fucked over for it so rules 2 and 3 are being enforced as we speak so i get out before i get to attached. These rules don't do much for fostering intimacy but in my experience its best not to get to intimate with females anyway cos they all have SO many fucking issues and neuroses. I have been liveing these rules religously for the last 18 months, i break one of them once and get screwed. they shall NEVER be broken again as long as i live, i'm seriously considering getting a tattoo of them. |
